What was your experience with “French model Tara Lynn”?
When this woman caught my eye on Facebook yesterday I found myself gazing at her, and at first, I felt rather uncomfortable. She seemed pretty but she was so big!
My conditioned mind was immediately judgmental (aka fearful) of this model. Yes, she had beautiful parts, but the curves and soft rolls were jarring for a psyche so well-trained by fashion, “health & fitness,” and “beauty” magazines, as well as 99.9% of the other messages we receive from the world around us that say: Regardless of what is natural or healthy, waif-skinny or perfect six-pack athletic is the ultimate goal. In short, fat is death.
However, in this experience with “French model Tara Lynn,” I experienced a MAJOR a-ha!
Mid-thought (read as judgement), I noticed I wasn’t breathing. My lungs were contracted. As I consciously softened and allowed my lungs to expand, I noticed a peace come over me. In that peace, I began to experience this woman’s beauty, and I was captivated.
What if we, as a culture, are not afraid of fat at all (like modern media would suggest)? What if what we are really afraid of is REAL BEAUTY?
When I allowed myself to initiate the miracle by allowing breath in my own body to be restored, I dropped out of my place of judgmental thinking and into something much more real. I saw her as a beautiful body created for a purpose that she is living out. I watched my perspective shift in an instant.
From the new vantage point, I began to contemplate our cultural relationship with beauty.
People try to numb and dim their inner lights – try to not stand out and shine – out of fear of being different…and therefore disconnected. Naturally curvaceous women starve themselves and obsessively work out to look like children. Add the cosmetic surgery craze to further manipulate the natural body into something that we are conditioned to think is “desirable,” and we have a culture of people literally turning themselves inside out to attain something that is not even real.
What is real is the connection we experience between us – human to human, heart to heart. That connection DOES NOT COME from false manipulation. We may experience a brief sense of relief from the suffering of feeling disconnected, but that relief runs out like the sand in an hourglass only to have to be flipped again.
Why are we afraid of natural beauty? Because natural beauty is powerful – it inspires, uplifts, and guides us. Expressing it nurtures our spirits and elevates our souls.
What would happen if women really celebrated their NATURAL beauty, however that looked? What if, as the mermaid vs. whale story (below) addresses, all women ate with their families and enjoyed food and entertainment instead of making themselves wrong for doing so like so many women I know do (every woman who buys the above named genres of magazines falls into this category…including myself.)
If women – and people for that matter – stopped making themselves wrong and focused only on how they could serve with their gifts, what would that world look like?
Just something to think about.
In the meantime, thank you to Delphine Fieberg who originated this post, which has in two days garnered almost 200k likes, over 125k shares, and 50k comments.
I’d say we’ve got something to talk about.
Below is the picture of Tara Lynn and the story that accompanied it:
A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”
The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:
“Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.
Mermaids do not exist.
But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?
Without a doubt, I’d rather be a whale.
At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.
We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn’t enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: “How amazing am I ?! “
(The girl on the picture is French model Tara Lynn)
Feature photo is from the pages of French Elle Magazine – kudos to you, Elle!