Wholeness: We welcome life’s opportunities and challenges as essential to the leadership journey. With grace, we cultivate healthy, loving, and real relationships, with ourselves, one another, and the world.
Sounds nice, doesn’t it? All the cultivating of healthy, loving, and real relationships and such. We read this definition for our value of wholeness before every one of our Heart of Leadership meetings. I can’t tell you how much I love reading our values.
The truth is that a commitment to wholeness is not for the faint of heart. It’s so much easier not be welcoming of those challenges and do more hiding parts of ourselves or numbing out instead. Working too much, eating when we’re not hungry, drinking so we don’t have to feel, gossiping, watching endless reality TV, perfectionating, obsessing about our bodies, judging others, being apathetic and controlling are all ways that we avoid our wholeness.
Our culture is full of the habits that deprive us from our wholeness. We are so uncomfortable with being uncomfortable. But, it is only in the ability to be with our discomfort that we can be whole (=at peace) because all of who we are has been given the okay. No part of us is unworthy or unlovable. In fact, when we can accept our greatest challenges, they often become the fuel for our fire.